|Posted by thethousandmarch on November 25, 2009 at 2:13 PM|
Our baby girl was born this last Thursday, November the 19th, by way of c-section. This was not our plan. Jessi was induced at 9:00, Wednesday night. She started having contractions around 12:00 a.m. She was in full active labor by 5:00 am and was progressing nicely when the doctor checked her at eight. But, after eight hours of active labor and pain that had nearly overwhelmed her, Jessi hadn’t made any progress. We decided it was time for an epidural and pitocin. Especially after being awake for more than twenty-four hours, I don’t think Jessi could have taken much more. I was glad to see the pain stop.
Jessi labored for another five hours. The pitocin had ramped up the strength of the contractions. The nurse cranked up the dosage numerous times in those five hours trying to get the contractions to the desired strength. But, still no progress was made. The doctor felt that it was time to perform a c-section. He told Jessi she could continue to labor, but felt her labor would continue to stall. The baby had not been put into distress yet, but we didn’t want to risk her safety. We took the doctors advice.
The next day the doctor told us that the baby’s head had a ring on it where it had become stuck. The birth could not progress because the baby could not fit into the birth canal. He told us about a documentary he had watched about women in Africa who have had the same problem. However, cesarean sections are not available to them. They labor for days, the baby dies; often the mother dies as well. A couple hours later it really hit me, what this could have meant for Jessi, baby Cosette and I. Simply because we live where we do, Cosette was born happy and healthy.
After the c-section I went back to the room with Cosette. There I held her and tried my best to comfort her until her mother arrived. She did well, but it was abundantly clear that she wanted food. It was very difficult for me as her father to watch her suffer, even for this short time. Jessi soon arrived and Cosette’s ravenous appetite was satisfied for the time being.
Jessi is breast-feeding Cosette – things are going fine, but she has yet to start producing the amount of milk that Cosette desires. This is a normal occurrence; it can take up to eight days for a mother to start producing the amount of milk that her baby craves. During Cosette’s second day there came a point where we could not calm our so far very easygoing baby. It became apparent that she was crying because she was hungry. We had wanted to only breastfeed Cosette and had no intentions of giving her formula. However, when faced with the inability to feed our child naturally we did not hesitate to supplement her feeding with formula. Fortunately multiple formula companies have sent us enough free samples to meet our needs.
I’m usually the one who has been feeding Cosette when we do give her formula. I have her suck on my finger and then we slide a little tube, which delivers the milk, along the side of my finger. When she finally gets that first taste of milk you can see the delight in her eyes. She often gives a big smile after eating and dozes off – her stomach content. I hate to hear my baby cry in pain for even a moment, not being able to give her what she needs. It’s wonderful to be able to satisfy her hunger. I love to hold my baby. I love feeding her. I even like changing her diapers. I love to see her content. How terrible it would be to not be able to take care of her. To have to listen to her wail, and see her tears, and not be able to give her what she needs.
We have been able to give our daughter everything she has needed; but many parents are unable to provide many of the most basic things we take for granted. In honor of our new little baby Cosette I want to tell everyone about the Child Survival Program through Compassion International. This program helps local churches in poverty stricken communities share the love of God. It exists to save the lives of the youngest, most vulnerable children, including those yet to be born. They are provided what they need to develop into healthy, thriving boys and girls – nutritious food supplements, immunizations, ongoing health care and age-appropriate early childhood education and development opportunities. In addition, these children's mothers (or primary caregivers) are provided prenatal care, health care, parenting skills training and spiritual nurturing.
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